Peers are the people with whom we socialize. They can our friends, the people we work with, etc. They are basically the people with whom we share some interests. Peer Pressure is when we are influenced by other people (mainly, our peers) to act in a certain way or to do something. Nowadays, many people (including adults) fall prey to negative peer pressure.
It is really very easy to fall prey for peer pressure(negative) as everyone wants to fit in and be liked. Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate or aggressively dominate others. The behaviour is often repeated and habitual. It is really important for all to protect us against (negative) peer pressure and bullying. Many people get prey to peer pressure and bullying. This has an adverse affect on their lives.
When we are small, all of our decisions are taken by our parents. But, a time comes after some years when we start taking our decisions. This is the time when our peers start giving us suggestions that you should do this or that, this is good or that is bad, etc. This is the time in which we unknowingly start being under peer pressure. I am not saying peer pressure is always bad. When our parents tell us to do learn something, definitely they are saying for our good. Also, sometimes we face peer pressure as we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. There are many scenarios. I just want to say, try to stay away from negative peer pressure as it can mislead your life and you will regret it for life.
Types Of Peer Pressure
Peer pressure is of two types:
- Negative Peer Pressure: Negative peer pressure is when people you know, that are around your age, pressure you to do something that you would not do normally. It is generally not good for us. Peers telling you to do bad things that you are not ready to go and bullying you come under this aspect. An example of negative peer pressure is when your friends force you to start drinking, start smoking or tell you to bully someone. There are many examples of this. Guys ask yourself: Have you ever been prey to negative peer pressure? Sometimes the thing is so small that we don’t even consider it as peer pressure.
- Positive Peer Pressure: Positive peer pressure is the attitude of a peer group that encourages good behaviour rather than deviant behaviour. It is generally for our own benefits and is done by someone who cares for us. They tell you to do good things for your own benefit. An example of positive peer pressure is when your peers force you to stop smoking or to stop drinking alcohol. There are many examples of this too. Guys ask yourself this too: Have you ever gone through positive peer pressure? This can be from anyone who told you to do something for your good. Also, it can be used to pressure bullies into acting better toward other kids. If enough kids get together, peers can pressure each other into doing what’s right.
How do peers pressure?
- Insults: making a person feel bad for not doing something, so that they eventually will
- Reasoning: pressure by giving a person reasons why they should do something
- Rejection: pressure by threatening to end a relationship or a friendship
- Unspoken pressure: simply seeing all your peers doing something or wearing something can be s form of pressure
How To Protect Oneself From (Negative) Peer Pressure And Bullying
- Learn to say ‘NO’ to the people who force you to do something bad.
- Have confidence in yourself.
- Stop pleasing others.
- Talk with someone you can trust.
- If you are facing bulling in school/college, try talking to the staff members.
- Try to choose your friends very wisely.
- Keep yourself away from bad company as you may have always heard that your friends defines you.
- Don’t try to make excuses. Say what u feel.
- Believe in yourself and your values.
Impact of (Negative) Peer Pressure And Bullying
- One’s academics will be affected.
- There will be a decrease in your self-confidence.
- One will start feeling bad about oneself.
- One can start adopting habits that will harm you like drinking, smoking, etc.
- One may harm oneself.
- One will start keeping distance from them.